Intellectual Curiosity

#MasturbationMondayWhile this week’s prompt seemed to indicate that the topic under the magnifying glass (not literally, before any of us guys get an inferiority complex) was the penis, I’ve decided to go off on a bit of a tangent. I am male and, therefore, it kind of goes without saying that I have a penis. I have, in fact, written a number of posts on the subject of my penis. My penis and I have been life-long partners and have shared many wonderful experiences together.

So, as I said, I thought I’d go somewhere slightly different…

For the record, I have absolutely no desire to be a woman. PMT, periods, pregnancy, childbirth, menopause, having to put up with us guys, inherent sexism in society; no, not for me. My genetic role of the dice came up XY and for that I am eternally grateful.

However, as someone who writes about sex, and writes (hopefully fairly realistic) descriptions of sex, I am curious as to what it would feel like from the female perspective.

Now, even as a man, there is nothing stopping me from, if I were so inclined, sucking another guy’s cock, or taking a cock in my arse but (and it’s a big but), I am not so inclined. There are some sacrifices I will not make for my art.

So, when trying to write about sex from a female perspective, I have attempted to glean what it feels like from my various partners over the years.

I know what it feels like to be inside a woman and, conversely, I can sort of imagine how it must feel in reverse, but I will never know.

So, if I could spend a day a woman, how would I spend that day?

Well, it stands to reason that I would spend a fair bit of time exploring and getting to know my new bits, for the purposes of research, obviously, you understand. Experiencing both orgasm, and the frustration of its denial as a woman would give me a fantastic insight for some of my D/s stories.

And then there’s sex…

Now, this is where it gets interesting. As I’ve already pointed out, as a straight male, I have absolutely no interest, sexually, in my own gender. This poses a bit of a problem. Were my personality to be transplanted, as is, into the body of a woman, with no other changes, then presumably my sexual preferences would remain as they are; i.e. attracted to women, no interest in men.  Surely then, this would make me a lesbian?

I don’t have a real problem with this. Given my passion for cunnilingus, I guess that would still be an option, and I would get to experience it from the woman’s perspective, so it’s all good.

However, given that I’ve already said, any such switch would be for the purposes of research, and so to fully achieve this, being a woman would also mean sex with a guy, otherwise what is the point of the experiment? Could I do it? Would I be able to enjoy it is I did? How would the experience affect me when I reverted back to my own body?

Of course,  another way of looking at it would be that since I am heterosexual, the female “me” would be as well, and I would be able to fully experience and (hopefully) enjoy the feelings and sensations of what it is to be a woman being taken by a man; to experience as a “receiver” all the things I do with my partner in my natural state as the “giver”

In an ideal world, the female “me would like both men and women, but I suspect I’m possibly being greedy.

Now, if you have read any of my stories, it may be that you think that my descriptions of sex and the feelings experienced by both partners are fairly accurate, albeit that everyone’s senses and sensations are unique to them. That being the case, the exercise become somewhat academic because, ultimately, the only person whose experiences and feelings I can truly accurately describe are my own.

On the whole, I think I’ll just stick to using my imagination. It seems to work well enough. I can’t deny, however, that I do have a certain intellectual curiosity. As I mentioned at the start however, I am very happy being a man and, in particular, this man.


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  1. I have never ever had the desire to be a man and have never wondered how it would feel to be a man. That said, I do think that it’s quite an interesting writing exercise to write a sex scene in the first person, but from the perspective of another gender. Back when I had the Dutch writing group we did this exercise and it was interesting to follow the discussion afterwards.
    Great post!

    Rebel xox


  2. I’ve considered this question from a similar perspective. On the one hand, if I was to be a man for a day, I would LOVE it. To have my very own cock? To be able to stroke it and feel what it is like to orgasm – or to be edged – as a man?


    To not have to deal with “What do you know, anyway? You’re just a woman” attitudes from mechanics and plumbers and electricians and other trade folk?

    Yes. That would be awesome.

    To not have to argue my pay rate because it is automatically assumed I am competent and worth every penny?


    But there is the whole not-into-women thing. So on the other hand… If I transplanted my current makeup of preferences and personality into a man’s body, I would be ME. And generally speaking (there are *rare* exceptions), ME does not find women sexually appealing.

    Then again…

    I’m heterosexual, so if I became a man for a day, it stands to reason that I would still be heterosexual. But instead of being a het female, I’d be a het male. Which might actually be kind of awesome. Because I’d like to know what sex – in all its forms – feels like from the other side.

    But the on the OTHER other hand…

    (And the wheels on the bus go ’round and ’round…) 🙂

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  3. Interesting post – I think I may have a little penis envy – and here u are thinking what it may be like to be a woman when over at my place I was wondering what it would be like t be male so have written a fictional tale where i am the guy 😉

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  4. Interesting and thoughtful post. I’ve often wished I could swap for a day (even an hour) just to know what it feels like. When I pegged Ryan (forthcoming) that was partly fuelled by that fantasy, the change in body movements, watching his face (I tend to close my eyes when I’m receiving), and being the dominant partner were incredibly exciting. I can see that this is where cyber sex could work for me. And I agree about the intellectual/imaginative curiosity – it’s what drives me to explore new experiences. Also most the sex bloggers in the world would go bust overnight if we weren’t!

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  5. Imagination is a great way to find what you’re looking for if the ‘real deal’ is not possible. For me when I want to get a male perspective I read stories written my men from a male perspective. I’ve written from the M perspective before based off information and things I’ve been told after asking(Curiosity driven). I think it’s normal for one sex to have an intellectual curiosity for what it’s like to be the other, whether it’s a little or a lot. There are even stories out there about that very gender bending subject that range all of your ‘what if’s’.


    1. I’ve only once written specifically from a female perspective and it didn’t really work that well. Much of my writing was done in the third person so it’s seen from the “narrator’s” perspective, but it would be nice to know I was depicting my female characters’ thoughts and feelings in a way that was accurate and believable.


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