I’ll be honest, I’ve never really been one for leaving bite or scratch marks on my partners’ skin. If I’m going to leave a mark, it’ll be that of my hand, or my belt, causing the skin on their arse to glow a deep, rosy red.
Even as a youngster, I was never really into leaving love-bites on whichever girl I was going out with at the time or, even less so, have her leave them on me.
So, on the whole, when it comes to leaving any kind of mark on a partner’s skin, while I may be a “spanker” or a “belter”, I am not a “scratcher”.
Having said that, when you are on the receiving end, it can be a very effective form of non-verbal communication.
If I am going down on a woman, if she is digging her fingers into the skin of my shoulders or the back of my neck/head, I can usually be pretty confident that I’m doing something with my lips and tongue that she is enjoying. If these involuntary movements are accompanied by pleasurable moans, sighs and/or cries, then I can take it that may going down on her, is going down very well with her.
Similarly, when we are fucking, if her fingers are clawing at my back, or digging into the cheeks of my arse, I have never had to assume that I’m doing something wrong. Again, if she is vocalising her pleasure, such actions only serve to reinforce the fact that she is enjoying my attentions and serve as a source of encouragement to continue doing what I’m doing.
In both the instances described above, any such scratching that has occurred has, almost entirely, arisen involuntarily; it has been incidental, resulting from her reaction to what I have been doing. The idea of scratching as a deliberate action does, I have to say, do nothing for me, but when done as an reflexive reaction to something I have done, is definitely a compliment.