Food For Thought Friday - #F4TFridayThis week’s questions, were on the subject of hooking up. As, once again, it is a multi-part question, I have decided, once again, that the easiest way to answer is to break it down into its component strands.

Have you ever “hooked up” with someone just for sex?

I think it’s fair to say that if the answer to this one were “no”, this would be a pretty short post. Suffice to say that the answer is “yes” and that I have done so on a number of occasions.

How did you arrange it?

In every case, the hook-ups have come about, initially, through online contact; whether that be through actual hook-up sites like fabswingers or, more often than not, simply through that network that brings so many of us together, twitter.

The encounters have always followed a broadly similar pattern. First we follow each other, then we “get to know” each other online. At some point things will move to Direct Message and/or WhatsApp.

My work takes me around the country (particularly to London) and, where possible, I like to try and meet up with fellow bloggers/tweeters when I can. Most often, probably 90% of the time, this will be for a drink and a chat. Sometimes, however, it is for sex.

How did it make you feel?

Where the “get-togethers” have been arranged with sex in mind, this has always been discussed beforehand; we both know that when we meet, sex is very much on the cards. Of course, even though it’s been discussed, it isn’t a given. While there may be an element of expectation/anticipation, it certainly isn’t binding; either party can change their mind. The rules of consent still definitely apply.

I enjoy sex. The women I’ve hooked up with enjoy sex. There has been a certain “chemistry” from our online chats that have led us to believe that we would enjoy having sex with each other. The result is that I have never had any negative feelings about them. For me, these occasions have always been very enjoyable and a lot of fun. So far as I am aware, the women involved have never indicated that this was not the case.

Were there any consequences, good or bad, that arose from it?

I’ve never had a bad experience and, as such, I can safely say that the only consequences have been good. I have made some very good friends through these encounters; friendships that have remained even after the sex ended. I suspect this is as much down to the “community” that we are a part of, that makes us that bit more open and easy-going about such things. I’m certain not going to complain in any event.



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    1. Thank you. As I said in my reply to Cammies above, there is a lifespan for these things. I think it’s more likely to cause pain if you try to prolong it beyond the end of this.


    1. Ultimately, I guess it depends on what caused the sexual part of the relationship to end. Generally though, with these kinds of “relationships” they just run their natural course and, so long as there was no animosity between the parties, there’s no real reason for the friendship to end. Of course, the friendship may also, at some point, fade away, but that is the nature of life.

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