The last date that I had in the “traditional” sense of the word was back in 2005. It was, coincidentally, the third date that me and the woman in question had been on and, yes, we did have sex for the first time as a result. As it happened, a bit later we had sex for the second time and, assuming the next morning still counts as being part of “the date”, we had sex again.
Although we never dated again, given that we became a couple for a number of years after it, we did have quite a lot of sex, but I digress.
Prior to that, I would need to go back to 1989 where I was dating the woman who would become my girlfriend, fiancée, wife and, ultimately, ex-wife when we split up in 2004. Actually, that’s a bit of a lie. In late 2003/early 2004 when my marriage was in its final painful throes, I did have a handful of “dates” with two other women. They both knew my situation. In both cases, the sex didn’t happen until the second time we got together. The first meeting being a social one to see if there was any sort of spark/chemistry.
Of course, despite the fact that I “met” all three of the women (who weren’t my ex-wife) online via dating/contact sites, all of this was back in the pre-social media dark ages.
Since then, I have had sex with a number of women that I have met via Twitter. In every case the sex has happened on the first occasion that we have actually met in person. The difference between these “hook-ups” and the earlier “dates” has been the fact that, via social media, the spark/chemistry/sexual desire has all been established long in advance of the actual meeting. The “hook-up” and actual sex part was, ultimately, the consummation and culmination of what we had been building to over an extended period.
So, based on the above, I have fucked on the first, second, and third “dates”. Does it matter? Ultimately, in my view, no. If two people are attracted to each other and want to have sex with each other then, if the situation to do so presents itself, I see no reason why they shouldn’t just get on with getting down. Having said that, if for your own reasons, you want to wait for a bit, then that is fine too. Yes, sadly, in this world, others may judge, but that’s on them. The only opinions that actually matter in these situations are your own, and that of the person you are dating/hooking-up with, and want to have sex with. What anyone else thinks about your situation is irrelevant and they should really keep their noses out of other people’s business.