Thoughts On Nipple Play

A couple of weeks back, the lovely Posy Churchgate included me in the following tweet in relation to “Nipplegasms”.


Sadly, at the time, I wasn’t really in the best of places and so never got involved in the ensuing discussion, and while it’s a little bit after the fact, I thought I would add my thoughts on the matter anyway.

When It comes to nipple play, for me at least, there is a world of difference depending on whether I am the player or playee.

I love playing with women’s nipples. Kissing them, licking them, sucking them, biting them, squeezing them, teasing them. If you can do it to a nipple, I’ve probably done it.

I love the way women react when I pay particular attention to this part of their bodies. As to how I treat them, I tend to be guided by them. Some women like them treated gently, some prefer much rougher treatment. As so much of my own pleasure is derived from the pleasure of my partner, I like to make sure that I give their nipples the treatment that they enjoy the most.

They are wonderful barometers of a woman’s state of arousal and, for me, learning how a woman likes her nipples treated is every bit as important as learning how she wants me to treat her clit. In fact, it often seems to me that a woman’s nipples and her clit are somehow hot-wired together, and that for best effect, they should be simultaneously stimulated.

My own nipples, on the other hand, are a completely different story. Generally speaking, they are pretty much indifferent to attention. Touching them, kissing them, playing with them, generally elicits no more reaction from me than the same actions being performed on any other part of my body; and in some cases, and some parts, much less of a response. So, while it is just possible that I may have caused some, I can conclusively state that I have never experienced a “Nipplegasm”.

When I am aroused, my whole body effectively becomes one giant erogenous zone, of which my nipples play an equal part. On their own, however, stimulating them will do no more to arouse me than, say, stimulating my elbows, or my biceps. Truth be told, my back is much more sensitive, and my lower abdomen, particularly in the region of my appendix scar (although the same was true even before I obtained said scar) is probably the most sensitive non-naughty bit of me.

It’s probably fair to say that, as far as erogenous zones go, my nipples are the least erogenous of them all.

That’s not to say that I don’t enjoy having attention paid to them, but if you are looking to get a response out of me, there are much more rewarding parts of me that you could be paying attention to.

I suspect that this is more a peculiarity of my own. I’m sure other guys enjoy having theirs played with in the way that, in my experience, the majority of women do. For my part though, I can pretty much take it or leave it; I honestly wouldn’t notice, or care, if you ignored them completely and concentrated your attention on other parts of me that would be much more interested in what you are doing.



12 thoughts on “Thoughts On Nipple Play

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    1. I think the common theme is that we all like different things and that just because something works with one partner, you can’t assume that it will have the same effect with another. As Violet said below, finding this out though, can be a lot of fun.


  1. You sound very similar to M. He is quite ambivalent about me touching his nipples and, really, unless the rest of him is really wound up, playing with them isn’t going to elicit much of a response. So, in other words, I don’t think you’re peculiar at all. I think nipple play is just another one of those ‘we’re all different’, things.

    Jane xxx


    1. I think you’re right. I don’t actively dislike it, but generally, you’d illicit the same response from me if you tried stimulating my elbows. There are definitely bits of me that would be much more appreciative of the attention.


  2. My nipples are a bit hit and miss (that sounds odd) but it really depends on my cycle, sometimes they are very sensitive and need very gentle attention or maybe none at all and other times they are happy to play a bit harder 😉


    1. I don’t think that you are particularly unusual in that respect. Most women I’ve know have tended, to a greater or lesser degree, to express the same in relation to their nipples. I guess mood is also an important factor as the type of attention you want your nipples to receive will relate to the kind of sex you want in that given moment.


  3. I’ve know several men whose nipples are not erogenous at all but that is what is so much fun finding what works and what doesn’t for the individual! Me I love the nips played with and often the harder the better! 😉

    Velvet x


  4. Mine are incredibly sensitive and I adore having attention paid to them. One touch can light me up. Funny enough one is more sensitive than the other.

    I have not yet actually orgasmed solely from them being stimulated, but that’s more because I get impatient and demand attention elsewhere. I have come incredibly close though and think I’d need to be “forced” to wait and let it happen.

    Master C is much the same as you regarding having his touched or licked… Nothing! In fact I think he actively dislikes it.

    But me? Nipple play and nipple torture… Yes please!


    1. So far, there does seem to be a male/female split on this. I’m sure there are men who enjoy theirs being played with much more than I (and Master C it seems) do, and I’m sure there are women who enjoy it less than you and the partner I mentioned in reply to Posey’s comment. I just haven’t encountered them yet 😉


  5. I am delighted to have inspired this post, and am very interested in your feedback & opinions and, as I haven’t written my own article yet, I might be quoting you.

    I couldn’t help thinking, as I read your assurances that your nipples are ambivalent about stimulation, that yours haven’t been stimulated the right way for the right length of time yet! I also noticed you saying you might have given a nipplegasm to a woman, and from the positive feedback I got about how a nipplegasm feels I’d say you would KNOW if you gave a partner one!
    Thank you so much for sharing.

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    1. I had a particular partner who had very sensitive nipples indeed (see this week’s #MasturbationMonday prompt image). I definitely brought her close a couple of times, but she “preferred” to wait until my tongue was applied elsewhere before she would let go.

      I’m really not sure about my own. At best I’m mostly indifferent and at worst, I’d actually rather they were lest alone. I don’t like them being bitten and, as I said, kissing or licking them has no more effect on doing the same thing to any other not especially erogenous bit of me. There are bits of me that definitely do enjoy that sort of attention, so I much prefer it when such is focussed there instead.


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